Quick reminder guys. The way we
structure this training it means you need
to follow along with the techniques.
Even if you find that days one easy.
Even if you find it hard.
Be bold. Make things happen.
If you really don’t want to do this day
by day you can jump ahead with the full
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Yesterday I challenged you to hold a
conversation with your “safe” person and
use the BREAK technique whenever you
found yourself drifting into your own head.
If you don’t know what I’m talking about
you’re not keeping up with the training.
For the full training check out how to overcome shyness or…
Go back and read.
Make things happen.
Between the journals I’ve read and the replies
most of you have been doing well with this.
Don’t worry if you’re struggling a bit everyone’s
going to go at a bit of a different pace here. If
you’re still struggling it doesn’t matter.
Just keep working at it. It’ll become easier
quicker than you might think. You might
try finding an additional “safe” person
you can talk to to increase the social exposure.
Just keep going until you manage it,
Keep BREAKING those bad habits.
Whether you’re still working on that
today or you flew through it, I have
a new task for you today.
Another simple one but it can carry more
weight than you might think.
Give out a freebie.
Don’t make a huge deal over it. Next time you
pass a stranger on the street who has something
that stands out, compliment them on it.
Could be anything from a crazy hairstyle to
a piece of clothing. Anything that stands out.
Ideally you want to do it on a quiet enough street
so they’ll hear you without having to repeat yourself.
And not too many people around to put you off.
Don’t make a big deal over it. Don’t stop and look
to keep a conversation going. They don’t know
you’re doing this for the social exposure. It’ll
be normal enough for them at worst and, at best, you’re
making someone else’s day.
The result here is mainly two fold.
First of all you’ll get the social exposure. Getting
used to talking to people and giving a compliment
is putting yourself out there just enough without
really putting yourself at risk.
It’s minimum risk to yourself because you’re
not hanging around. It’s a freebie and you’re gone.
Secondly it’s likely to give you a short term confidence
boost. It might take a few attempts before you’re comfortable
enough to realise it, but it’ll get easier the more
you do it.
Added bonus is, in some cases, it might lead to a further
conversation. Either there on the spot or later on.
But you’re not planning that.
It’s important you keep in mind you’re just
looking to give out the freebie compliment and
I want you to do this with at least one person today.
It has to be a stranger, not someone you can talk
Don’t worry about a whole conversation or anything.
Drop the compliment, smile and keep walking.
If and I mean IF you find yourself in a longer
conversation then use the BREAK technique
if needed and remember to stay present but
don’t make more out of it than it is.
Don’t fall behind guys. Do your best to
get out there and do it today.
If you’re still working on the BREAK technique
with your safe conversations then I want you to
And keep an eye out for tomorrow’s email.
I have something really useful for you.
Be bold. Make things happen.